Real Estate

I live with my girlfriend in New York City. I was laid off from my job more than 6 months ago. She is an artist that works as an Executive Assistant for an established commercial construction company as her day job. At the moment, she earns $54,000 a year. Every 6 months, she receives an evaluation to determine whether or not she would get a raise. She has a 401K and full health insurance because of this job. Even after I was laid off, I still contributed 50% towards all the expenses through my unemployment benefits.

I recently was accepted into Grad school in a technology program that would guarantee me work once I graduate. Even though I’m happy to be accepted, I will need to live frugally for the next two years.

Today, my girlfriend told me that she wants to leave her job just because she wants a change. She has been offered a position for $30,000 as an administrative assistant for a small realty company. This is a new business, and I do not even know if she would receive quality insurance if she takes the position. I feel that the timing is way off, since I’m trying to figure out all of our expenses for the next two years. She would essentially be leaving her job for one where she could possibly be forced to live paycheck to paycheck in New York City (which is a very expensive city). Also, there is not guarantee that the position will last especially if the business folds.

Am I wrong to think that she is crazy to leave here job for another job in a start-up with nearly a 50% pay cut? Being unemployed during these economic times, I realize that having a job is a blessing while having a well-paying job is more than a blessing. Am I wrong to think that she is being impractical to make this change when I’m on the verge of attending grad school with student loans? If she loses her job while I’m in the middle of grad school, I do not know what will happen. Today, she has a secure job. I would not leave it. After I graduate, I plan to find work and move to a more affordable city (ex. Austin) with my girlfriend, so I just want her to be patient.
To clarify, my girlfriend is NOT putting me through school. I am using my own funds. My concern is that this new job is not secure; and, if she loses this job, I do not know how I would be able to support her. She is my girlfriend, but I intend to marry her after I finish school. We have been together for 4 years already.

You do not sound crazy and it sounds like your girl friend is not being practical. With that said, it is her choice and if it is something that will make her happy you will have to be able to respect her choice. If I were in your shoes I would just remind her of your concerns, but I would not force her her in to making the choice you want her to make.

I’m apisces and not much people like cause I’m fat. but some of my friend told me that my hand much nice then they. nuy still i think my dream world much better than this cruel realty world. and why people judege me so fast. cause of my look. I also don’t good look. so basiclly i almost alway alone by myself in my dream world where I won’t be hurt by the human. Is this normal for a Pisces.? why do people judgge you by the look of your. they call me alsort of name they could think of. and they know I can’t hold me emotion in for ever but when need help they craw to me ofr help. Is this a normal way for Psices it I’m a different Pisces.
My sun is Pisces
Moon is Scorpio
Rising is Pisces
PLEASE TAKE IT SERIOUSELY AND PLESASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE AND TODAY IS ANOTHER HORRIBLE FOR ME IN THIS REALTY WORLD. THANK IT BE BETTER IF YOU PISCES TOO.

yeah we need a lot of alone time to center ourselves. We absorb everything around us that we feel, we’re really impressionable. We get sick if we take in too much and loose ourselves. Lots of pisces/scorpios/cancers try to escape into their own dream worlds, but especially Pisces. We are notorious for getting away from the gross outside world and retreating into our own. We don’t have the same defenses as most people. I do the same thing to a certain degree, but just for a few hours to literally take a breather. I have to go back and face the world eventually. What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. If people are disrespecting you stand up for yourself. The world is a great place so don’t let the negative side of it make you hide. Nobody wants to be alone all the time. Pisces are very kind people, we’re generous and self sacrificing. Its really easy for us to make real friends once we find the right people. Get out there sometime, we do need our time alone but we also need time with others, deeply.

We went to a realty place today and were told that VA wouldn’t give out loans for houses built before 1975. Is this true, and if so where can i get info on it? I’ve tried http://www.va.gov/ , but I can’t find any info on houses needing to be built before 1975.

No such requirement. My guess is that the mortgage broker you spoke to isn’t qualified to offer VA loans so he/she lied to get you into something he could offer.

I’ve been dating this guy for 3 months..

He calls or texts me everyday and always wants to know how my day is. We spend several days a week together

Today, he called me 3 times..first time was to tell me how work was yesterday..then he called back to tell me about the puppy he found at one of his properties (he’s an inspector for a realty company), then he called again to tell me how much the lottery was up to and that I should by a ticket lol! We talked a long time each time he called…

What does it mean when a guy calls this much?

It means he cares alot about you. Answer mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110324185128AAZVYDO

we’ve been dating 3 months (not exclusive but I think that is going to change very soon)..

last night we went out for St. Patty’s day and he met my best friend (I met all of his last weekend)..while we were out, he kept putting his arms around me and pulling me close to him. One time he looked over at my friend and said "I like this, ALOT" (referring to me as he pulled me close)..

as I was driving him home, he reached over and pulled my arm into his lap and held my hand. he interlocked his fingers with mine and kept squeezing my hand tight (but not hurting me)..he also kept rubbing his thumb over my hand. he told me like 4 times on the way home "I like you" and I told him that I liked him too

when we got to his house, we sat in the car talking for a while and at one point, he reached up and brushed my hair out of my face then stroked my cheek w/his hand-it was so cute!!

today he called me twice..the first time to let me know he was able to get a whole bunch of stuff (tv,laptop,furniture,etc) out of an abandoned house that his realty company now owns..he was really excited about it. He called me a few hours later to let me know how it went and what stuff he ended up with..he didn’t say anything to me about going out tomorrow which is something we’d planned on doing (and talked about last week)..I text messaged him an hour later to ask him if he still wanted to get together tomorrow and got no response..

I don’t like being ignored and he’s usually pretty quick to text back..should I be annoyed by this or wait until tomorrow to see what he does?

No, Phone may have died, he may have ran out of credit may not have received the text he may be busy any number of things could cause him not to respond and the way you talked about the way he was with you beforehand it probably is as innocent as that if he doesn’t respond to any texts after this and even up until 1 hour before your date then you should be annoyed..

I’ve been dating this guy for 3 months (but i’ve known him for about 8 months)..we are very close emotionally and things are going great between us. We agreed to take things slow (one step at a time) since he’s been very hurt by relationships ending badly in the past.

he’s a very gentle,loving,and respectful guy-he’s NEVER been pushy with me (we haven’t even kissed yet lol). He’s a strong christian which I believe is causing him to not be all over me which I totally appreciate. He said over time, he’ll become more affectionate.

he’s been going through alot of stress from work the past two months b/c he’s working two jobs. the first job-the boss is very high strung due to having too much workload on him and not enough staff (he works in realty w/that job) and the second one-his coworkers are quite young and gossip alot and don’t respect him. He’s been putting up with alot of crap from the second job for too long and finally put his notice in today (which he stressed out over since yesterday).

we usually spend every Mon/Tues together since I don’t have my kids..we did go out last night and had alot of fun. earlier today, I called him to see how he was doing (since he had to turn in his notice) and we talked for a few mins-he said he would like to get together again tonite and to give him some ideas of what we could do. I FB messaged him a few hours later w/some ideas. He wrote back saying they all sounded fun and he’d let me know

we talked around 8p tonite at my daughter’s gym practice (where he works) and he said he’d call me when he was done w/class. He called and said that he’d had a rough day w/turning in his notice and everything and just wanted to chill by himself for a bit and would call me later to do possibly do something-this was fine w/me…

he texted me 30 mins later asking me what I wanted to go out and do and I suggested a few of the things I mentioned in the FB message..he called back a few mins later and sounded upset. I asked him if he was ok and he said he was just tired and stressed out. He then asked what I wanted to do but it needed to be low key and quick b/c he didn’t want to be out too late. I suggested ice cream then sitting at a nearby park to talk..he flipped out on my saying he wasn’t in the mood to be romantic (said something like he didn’t feel like sitting somewhere and holding my hand)..I got very quiet after this b/c I’ve never had him snap at me like that. He then went off for a few more mins about how everyone around him was uptight and causing him pressure and now I was suggesting romantic dates like ice cream which was adding more pressure. I told him I was sorry, I wasn’t trying to push his buttons and then got even more quiet. I felt like crying but at the same time, I knew his frustration and anger wasn’t aimed towards me.

I reminded him that he had a breakfast date w/his grandma tomorrow (he set it up w/her while we were at coffee last week) and asked him if that was something he enjoyed..he got happy and said yes then was totally surprised that I’d remembered (he’d forgotten and said it was the first time he’d forgotten a breakfast date w/her) and was happy that I was backing him up.

a few mins later, he calmed down (with me encouraging him that things would get better) and he kept apologizing for getting upset. he then told me that he really likes me and loves where our relationship is heading..he said he thinks about me all the time and it’s a good thing. He felt really bad for going off on me and said he was just tired and way stressed out. I suggested him taking a hot shower and getting into bed. we talked for about an hour (I could tell he didn’t want to hang up but he was exhausted) and he just kept saying he was so sorry for venting but I told him that everyone blows their top every now and then-especially in relationships. I told him I wished I was there to give him a hug (he was at home)..he said that he really did want to hang out w/me tonite but just needed to rest. I understood how he felt. I told him to get some rest..he told me to have sweet dreams and we’d talk tomorrow..

I know that this behavior is something EVERYONE does at some point in their lives..my guy is not a violent,angry person-he’s normally VERY calm and gentle. How can I let him know that I’m not upset about tonite and I won’t hold it against him?

Don’t stress him by bothering him with your feelings right now. He has enough on his plate. Just call him tomorrow and ask him if he is feeling better. sometimes we all need a break to just be alone and think. that is probably what he needs. This has been a very stressful time for him and he needs to contemplate his next move. He may also end up being a little short on cash, so watch for excuses not to go out, and maybe suggest you and he stay in and you cook a nice meal or something. Just don’t mention why you are doing it. Some men do not like to discuss things like that unless they are married.

I have always had a problem with eczema. I have it on my hands cause I wash them too much (OCD) but occasionally it gets on my arms and neck but it has always been limited to those two areas. Now suddenly it has gotten all over my legs and on my breasts (first time this has ever happened) and it itches severely bad. It has been on my ears too and my ears feel like they are burning hot. So this morning I noticed when I bend my ears back underneath them, it is purple. It is worse on the left ear than on the right. I put some cream for impetigo on it. It is realty worrying me. They are still burning hot and itching really bad. Does it sound like an infection or what do you think? There is no pus or drainage. And it is persistant burning and itching; it doesn’t go and come back. I am going to the doctor later today, but until then, should I be worried? Thx so much! Best Answer gets 10 pts!

The same thing happened to my mom. She had to go to the emergency room and they gave her some medicene for it. It was some kind of itch relief cream, i am not sure what its called but please go and check because it is an infection and needs to get treated just by some kind of stuff. Please give me best answer

this is the most f**ing ridiculous situation ever. basically i’m 19 and pregnant going to school right now and i live in an apartment near the campus thats managed by a real estate company. Before i signed the lease they said that they might ocasionally do showing of my apartment but theyd give at least 24 hours notice. So i said fine as long as you call me (i have a dog and if someone came while i was gone she might get out)

anyway at about 9 this morning my fiance was over and we had sex. which i’m not embarassed to say because i’m an adult. still i locked the door. and its an efficiency so just one big room. anyway we were having sex and then to my horror i heard the door start unlcoking and then my realtor and a guy and his parents just walked right in to see the apartment and they saw us both naked and having sex. i screamed and started crying right away and threw my clothes on and so did my fiance.

anyway they left right away (the realtor gave me a dirty look and stormed out). then i got a call saying i was on "probation" and that she was going to talk over the situation with the other head realtors and if they all decided i needed to go then i would be evicted. i was so mad. i didnt do ANYTHING wrong and i told her that and she cussed me out telling me i cost her a sale and that i violated the terms of my lease. then she said she did call me and i literally brought my cell and my answering machine into the office to show them their was NO MESSAGE LEFT. then she called me trashy and a b**ch and said that she never wanted to lease to me anyway.

anyway im furious – she said she’d call me today at 6 and tell me if i was going to be evicted or not. i just dont know what to do, i feel so helpless. do i have a legal case against the realty company? PLEASE… i need help QUICK.

I don’t believe this is a legitimate question.

But even if it were a legitimate question you would have no cause of action against the realty company. The agent is perfectly entitled to her opinion that you are a trashy bit*ch.

I am in CA. I made a CASH offer yesterday on a home that is a short sale.. we have not heard anything (I know this whole thing is a LONG process but…) Then later today got an email update from another online realty website saying the price on the SAME HOME I PUT MY OFFER ON just went UP by $3000… So I checked all the other websites with homes listed, and they all have this price increase as well… This particular home was on the market since Jan 11th, and had gone DOWN by $5000 TWICE this week, once on the 10th of FEB and then again dropping another 5 Grand on the 14th….. only 6 days ago, and NOW it is going UP??? WTF?

What is going on?? Can they play around with multiple offers, (I was told I was the FIRST offer on the place) or do they have to honor/reply to mine and/or COUNTER OFFER first…. Then take it to their bank…???

Why would this happen, and why would it STILL be listed on websites if they got my offer? Does this mean they got the appraisal back or?

Alternately, I was going to bid on ANOTHER home last month that was a foreclosure, & NOW STILL HAS FOR SALE SIGN IN THE YARD, but my agent said it was in contract, meaning someone already put an offer on it… But that was 3 weeks ago and the FOR SALE sign is still there…

?????? Any input appreciated.. Thanks

Most of the time a property would still be listed even with an offer on the property. Someone back at headquarters don’t know what is going on in the field, as far as the price increase.

I am not sure what would happen in this scenario as once a short sale amount is approved this is normally the goal to sell the property. All the work has been completed to include what the lender would call an appraisal, this is one of the main ingredients to determine the asking price.

If there is an offer on the property most the MLS would then reflect that offer pending and a sale contract would cause the MLS to reflect sale pending.

Your real estate agent should have the answer to the question concerning the increase in the asking price, or should be able to find out the reason for the increase.

Even if there is an offer on the property you might always make a back up offer in the event the original offer fail to be completed. This is the case in many real estate transactions. Smart real estate agents would always accept a back up offer. This technique separate the truly professional real estate agent from those that are simply going through the motions.

I hope this has been of some benefit to you, good luck.

"FIGHT ON"

i have NEVER been this upset about anything before, so let me give you the back story

so I had a nice, okay-paying job that I liked in Philly and then I got pregnant and had to go onto paid maternity leave. Well while I was on leave the company went bankrupt and everyone got laid off. Since I am a single mother and since Im only 19 and dont have the support of my parents I cried but I brushed off my knees and realize im not the only one who is going through trouble. So a month before the birth of my twin children i arranged to rent an apartment in Buffalo NY through an internet realtor, i had never seen the place but the price was ok and i needed somewhere quick because I decided i wanted to relocate in buffalo because i had read on Yahoo that it was a good place to find decent jobs. i also signed the lease through email.

Well so fast forward to earlier today, i had just put my kids down for there nap and my hpone rings. Who is it I say. Oh it’s the realty company calling, good. Guess what they told me, they said that due to construction and "the city" i wouldnt be able to move into my apartment and Id have to find somewhere else to live. WHAT ABOUT THE 3500 DOLLAR SECTY DEPOSIT I PAID AND THE LEASE I SIGNED!!! I asked oh were sorry ITS NON REFUNDABLE! I told them i was furious and would take legal action and they hung up and wouldnt answer back even after i left 10 messages for them.

my lease on the apartment i’m in ends TOMORROW after which i have arranged and paid money to have my stuff moved to buffalo. My nearest family members live in Wisconsin and i barely know them and i dont have money for plane tickets or a motel, i barely have money to drive my car to the store and back. so anyway tomorrow I will be HOMELESS and on the freezing streets of Buffalo. like i said i don’t have anywhere to stay and can NOT afford even a cheap motel unless i want my kids to go hungry. like i said my parents disowned me after i got pregnant and they live in washington so thats not even an option, my mom told me she wants me to die. and i told the father i never wanted to see him again because we got in a fight and i dont even have his number anymore or anything.

PLEASE help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! also i will not WILL NOT take government handouts expecially not with the current president this is HIS fault he WANTS working people like me on the STREETS so dont suggest welfare or any of that bc i don’t believe in it!!!

Need someone to fly you to Wisconsin?